Sometimes the Truth Sucks Butt
Tonight I was hanging out in the kitchen with SM chatting with him while he finished his dinner. We were watching Paula Dean make black and white cookies with Elmo when my son, who is only 5, says to me, “Mom, you should go on a diet.” At first I don’t know what to say so I simply respond by saying, “I should go on a diet?”
SM replies, “Yes, just a little one. Then you could look like the girls on TV.”
Now I know that I am about 10 pounds (OK 15 whatever…) overweight and I know that my son meant NOTHING by it, but we all know that young children are honest and I am only human.
I gently explained to SM that girls are sensitive about their weight and that we shouldn’t say things like that to them. I could instantly tell he felt bad. It was obvious that he didn’t understand that what he was saying would hurt my feelings.
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Poor little guy…
Oh my. Well you certainly handled it well and turned it into a learning experience for him. But…how is your ego? I admit, my heart would have taken a hit from that comment…even from a 5 year old. Silly, eh? Once, a little girl I was babysitting commented on my crooked teeth. I also turned it into a learning experience for her but I’d by lying if I said I wasn’t crushed =(
Sounds like you handled it very well. Better he learn from you than someone who may not be as caring!
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Ouch. You handled it VERY well! And if that picture is any indication you look amazing!
Maybe it can be a clever way to talk him into eating veggies… something like, “Yes, we’re having brocolli tonight so Mommy can lose some weight.” HA! Back fired!
Seriously, at least he knew to feel bad and hopefully his dad took that opportunity to give him Man Talk #2 entitled “Never Comment On a Woman’s Weight”, which is right behind Man Talk #1, “No One Will Ever Be As Good As Mommy”.
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Man…that sucks…
You handled it incredibly well though!
And…you look great in that pic!
-Smashley
U don’t need to lost 10-15 pounds.
Really.
I can’t believe he notices the girls on Tv and compares them to U.
Very funny, yet the honesty sucks.
They have told me I have a big butt so I know how u feel.
It sucks.
You are like.. thanks a lot.
Really Thanks.
Feeling good about myself.
You handled that very well!
When my daughter was 4, she looked at a photo of me in my wedding dress and said “Mommy, you USE to be really pretty.” Yes, I was much thinner and younger in the photo but I also knew the words did not mean the same to me as they meant to her. Still, it hurt.
Ouch. I think we’ve all been on the receiving end of “honest observations” from children.
As long as you’re healthy-who cares if you don’t look like the girls on tv! Half of them have bulimia anyway!
Oh NO!
This summer Josh looked at me in my bathing suit and said, “Hey Mommy! You look like Sammy’s still in your tummy!” And Sam was 2 1/2 almost 3 at the time.
I about died!
You look great, don’t worry about it!
Wow that would throw me for a loop.
You look great by the way.
And you handle it well.
I love Paula Dean!!
It’s sad that 5 years old are so influenced already. If that’s coming out of a boy’s mouth, imagine what the little girls are thinking. I really hope things start changing when my girls in that age range.
Way to handle the situation though..props!!
I think you look great!
My six year old likes to point out my flaws. I just remind her that everyone says she looks just like me…
Has he been watching The Girls Next Door again?
Still hopping around…
You guys are the best!
Aw! Poor him! Poor you! Parenting puts us in some strange situations sometimes.
Duuuuuuude. That would just suck. I think you look fine. Tell him the girls on TV are most likely suffering from one eating disorder or another to maintain their skinny physiques. Healthy mamas have curves, son!
I think you responded in a great way.
(And you look fabulous!)
My daughter asked me awhile back why my stomach is so squishy. Ugh.