So I am having my first experience with a nasty blogger. Tonight I get home and check my email and I find this “anonymous” comment in regards to a post I did back in September:
Just stumbled onto your blog………can’t believe how stupid you are. Firstly what kind of mother feeds their child macdonalds on a regular bases, secondly getting up at 5.30 is normal, going to bed at 8pm is normal and being tired at night and wanting to go to sleep is NORMAL. Get a parents guide and do your kid a favour, try less sugar and more vegetables durrrrr ! Oh it breaks my heart when he is not well…then why don’t you look after him properly ?
At first my feelings were kind of hurt but I decided to just erase the nasty message and go on about my business. Then moments later I find a Google Alert that indicates that Anonymous is not so Anonymous and she has posted about me on her blog.
I just don’t even know what to say. Why be so nasty. I have never been nasty to anyone on the blogosphere. I don’t even know who she is.
So, here is my response:
No I don’t feed my son McDonald’s on a regular bases. Just because I say I am shocked he turned it down doesn’t mean he eats there all the time. It’s a TREAT!!! Did you read the post?
Next getting up at 5:30 a.m. is not normal for my child. He has always been a late sleeper, sleeping until 7:00 a.m.
Again, did you read the post because I did not say that going to bed at 8pm was early. I’d of been fine with 8 p.m. but he feel asleep at 6:30 p.m.
As far as eating healthy, this boy eats more veggies and fruit than any child I know that is his age.
I don’t even know why I am giving you the time of day but please take your nasty comments and inaccurate opinions elsewhere.
Thanks, the management
People are jerks sometimes. I believe some people spend massive amounts of time just harassing people in such a manner. sad. Anyway, I think you’re fabulous!
Well said, Shannan! Some people seem to like to focus on other people’s lives rather than examine their own. Don’t sweat it! Hugs!
I just read about this on your Twitter. I actually have been harassed and insulted by people on my pregnancy blog last year when I was pregnant. They went so low… Eventually I had no choice but to shut my pregnancy blog down. Things weren’t at all good for us back then and we blogged about it for our family and friends. In the end, they blamed everything on us. We were to blame for it all. Well, if things aren’t going as they should and someone puts you down like that, I don’t know about others, but I got very emotional and depressed. It was very bad.
Looking back, I really did not have a choice. It was too stressful for the baby, and for me too. But I do know one thing. They have no life of their own. If they did, they would not have stalked and harassed me and my family like that. And I think the person who left nasty comments here isn’t any different. Just don’t let them get to you!
Btw I’m @rosiewosie on Twitter, if you want to know.
I forgot to add… I had found out who was stalking me. It was my ex’s family, his entire family! With no good reason either. The only thing I could think of is that my ex’s sister didn’t have kids of her own and she also wasn’t pregnant. I knew she wanted kids. And I think it’s rather mean of me to think that, but I don’t know what other reason they could have to act up on me like that. Besides, they insulted, harassed, stalked, attacked me and my family in any way possible.
An example: Being pregnant made my belly grow – which makes sense to me. To them, I was just fat and ugly and they wanted the whole world to know it.
Come to think about it, I haven’t really processed all of this yet. I guess it takes time.
Angela seems like such a classy lady. You should be honored (or, I’m sorry, is it “honoured”) that she took the time to bestow her special brand of incisive, witty commentary on your blog.
Some people are idiots, and you should not feel you have to justify anything. Try not to let them get you down.
Love reading your blog, btw.
Mean people suck. She must have some serious issues going on to attack you like that. Don’t take it to heart.
I received my first nasty response months ago. I had to take away the ability to comment as “Anonymous” for a few months. I just don’t understand why people have to be like that!
Judgmental and preachy – two of my favorite mommy qualities.
Don’t let her get to you! She sucks!
I am so sorry to hear that! Why can’t people just be nice?
What goes around, comes around. I’m sure bad karma will bite her soon enough.
Maybe she should switch that “w” to a “b” in her name.
I will never understand what compels some people to leave nasty comments, but to write about you on her blog? Has she nothing better to post about?
And I’m with Laura, what goes around absolutely comes around. That’s why I only use my blogging powers for good, never for evil
Sorry you got such a nasty comment.
I wouldn’t sweat it though.
Maybe she should learn to spell before judging you on her blog and posting about it.
Really. I am a VERY mouthy person, especially on gut reaction, so I probably would have defended myself (sort of like someone went to ur defense on her blog…good for them..) but it is best left alone. She’s either jealous of your life, or she is using schadenfreude to feel better about her life.
She SUCKS. YOU ROCK.
i had to respond to angela.here is what i said:
dear madam ,your seemingly random disparaging potshot at a mother you do not know seems at best impulsive and petty. Perhaps in your own self righteous way you were trying to be helpful,or perhaps you’re just mean(as I don’t know you I will leave those assumptions to those who do.) I will tell you that I do know this mother,very well.her children are well fed on healthy foods,active smart and very happy.they both were reading before they were three years old,choose fruits and crunchy veggies over sweets and are never babysat by the television. their parents work hard to instill kindness patience and politeness among other virtues ,in their children and also work quite diligently in the community .they work with organizations to help abused women and homeless children,champion the rights of all individuals to a decent life of dignity and shelter.they take special pains to set aside time with each of their children as together time,doing things to broaden their minds and spirits.if you had stopped to ask first you would have maybe found you had jumped too soon to your conclusion and had a chance to make a friend.you would be better served to remember the old adage”it is better to remain silent and thought a fool than speak and prove it”
Do yourself a favor sweet pea and take the link to her hateful blog off of this post. Why send traffic over to her? She doesn’t deserve any further attention from you, a wonderful mother, nor your wonderful readers.
I’m sorry you had to deal with such a small minded person.
Shannon .
The things you say still do not add up but we are all individuals. If you where a friend I would continue the conversation and try and show you what I was trying to say.
I found it all rather funny especially your Mom coming to your defence. Like gypsies over a fireplace, screaming at each other.
And yes I can’t spell.
I still feel that you are wrong but at the end of the day , I started the nastiness and I am sorry.
Ugh. I hate petty people with nothing better to do than troll the web looking for places to spew their bitterness.
I think Angela still doesn’t get the main point here – who the heck cares what she thinks of other people’s parenting?
I hope you had an awesome trip and came back refreshed and ready to inflict more long term damage to your children (just like me) – LOL!! Har Har Har…
Oh how horrible! What a witch!
And I can’t say any more because my dad always said if you can’t say anything nice, then don’t say anything at all.
Cyberbully is what she is. Feels it’s her moral duty to enforce her beliefs on the world.
Ignore her. Replying is giving her importance and she probably craves that.
Wonder what Freud would’ve said about such attention mongers??
Ugh, I’m not sure why some people think they have a right to judge others like that. I’d say ignore it, but I know that’s hard to do. I have had one troll the entire time I’ve been blogging(over a year all together) – and that troll came from my mommy board. I bet this gal belongs to one, too.
I hate when moms don’t support each other. We have enough other people second-guessing us, you don’t need a bitchy blogger doing the same. If I were as rude as her, I would mock her grammar.
–MM